How can I change my sad, scared mood?

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Congrats on reaching 40 years of life. Take comfort in the fact that you have reached this milestone. The majority of people in the past did not live up to 40, and thanks to medical science, you can look forward to at least another 20 years of life, if not 40 or 60+. Bodies are machines. Sometimes, over time and over the pressure we put on them, or what we put into them, they start to break down. Again, thanks to medical science, we are able to diagnose these parts and start fixing them, or at least understand them enough to mitigate discomfort. So while it is unfortunate to have a kidney infection, as well as high blood pressure, you will likely survive and keep living your life. Then you can take steps to lower your blood pressure, thus extending your lifespan. Living a long life may be something you are interested in, so that you may continue having long and valuable relationships with your spouse and daughter, and to enjoy living life and experiencing the things you enjoy doing. 40 may seem old and scary, like reaching the end of a road. But in reality, it’s not the end of the road at all, you’re only 50% plus or minus down it. Take some time to reflect on your life, reflect on the things you want to accomplish, and start taking steps towards these goals.

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