What was it like when your mother/father died?

What was it like when your mother/father died?
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thanatos: I am very sorry and might tentatively suggest you go to see him to perhaps mend bridges, finish up unfinished business and if nothing else, say “good-bye.” You can read up on grief, but you cannot predict your own emotions. Typically, the death of a parent is a violent shock, no matter what the circumstances.
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