Is there ever a reason to fall out with your Mother? If so, what would it be?

Is there ever a reason to fall out with your Mother? If so, what would it be?
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She has passed on but I cannot imagine ever dropping my mother under any circumstances. Lots of people do it, though. They think she deserves it. I have been around family who “fake it” around a parent to keep the peace, though. I can imagine doing that but not with my mother!
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