Hey Sarah, Welcome to the grown-up world! It’s really hard to start to think for yourself and it’s really hard for parents to realize that their kids need to become their own people. Over the years, my sons have made me grow and change some of my fundamental ideas as they became themselves and we discussed/argued about things together.You are now getting to the age when it’s very appropriate for you to think things through on your own. Maybe you can try to talk to your Mom some about this and ask her to be open to discussing other ideas with you as have them. If she isn’t, use this or other forums and people and begin to sort things out for yourself, even if it will be some time before you can gain independence.