How can I get my SO to want to be more involved in my social life?

How can I get my SO to want to be more involved in my social life?
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The only way to avoid an argument is to stop arguing. If what you want is not what he wants – deal with it. Learn to do your own thing, without him and do not try to force him to go, if he does not want to go. You are not joined at the hip, nor should you be. You are you, and have a set of interests that is not the same as his. I have never been able to understand why anyone would insist that their partner be a carbon copy of themself. You go out, and leave him in. There is absolutely nothing wrong with separate interests from time to time.
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