What should I start doing now to prepare myself for a radical shift in social lifestyle in college?

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answer:I think you have some misconceptions about college. First off, the alcohol. Seek it out, and you’ll definitely find large amounts of alcohol, or don’t, and nobody will care or notice. Unless you plan on going to Chico State, it’s not all about partying. College is not like high school. There is not pressure to go to parties, get drunk, or be popular. That’s not how you make real friends. If you’re worried about not really having friends, don’t. You’ll make some. I’d assume the college you’re going to will have plenty of people, and quite a few just like you, and they’ll seek you out. You seem to be coherent, breathing, and consistently sober, which should be enough to make some friends. Or at least it has been for me. Disclaimer: I am a joint high school/college student (community college) student and may have a completely different perspective of college than those “real” college students. Or I may be right. Who knows.

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