How can I avoid awkward situations at family reunions with family members that don't know I'm IN the family?

How can I avoid awkward situations at family reunions with family members that don't know I'm IN the family?
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it’s unreasonable to expect them to just know who you are, right? they can’t know without learning, can they? you have to introduce yourself and become known. that’s how it should be.
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