You worded this funny and it makes it hard to understand, sorry. You said “what else do we change our rules and why?” Do you mean, “what other rules are different for your family”?? Or do you mean “what rules are different for each family member in our families” Sorry I don’t understand which is the perfect question for me right now. I think that it’s cool that you don’t mind taking care of your parents but dont your kids taking care of you. In America we dont always take care of our elderly. We did, we took care of my grandpa for 14 years. Work on that retirement plan so you can have your independence your entire life.