How would you tell your kids that their dad is in jail for sexual abuse?

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answer:Um. Well, I guess it depends on how serious the charges are. Sometimes people get jailed for “abuse” when it’s not really. Also, how old are the kids? I don’t think total honesty is necessary all the time for younger children.

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