How do you stay friends after so much pain?

How do you stay friends after so much pain?
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answer:Give her space especially if things were rocky between you. The more you try to chase her down the more she’ll distance herself. It is hard to remain friends after a failed love affair. The best chance you have is if the relationship dies a natural death and both of you realize it. Then there are no hard feelings and a friendship may bloom. If one individual is still in love with the other…a friendship will probably be impossible because you’ll always be hanging on for more and she’ll sense that.
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