Parents, do you often feel anxiety over your children (especially daughters) growing up so quickly?

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answer:I am not a mom but I can relate to raising a child. I have helped raise my sister since she was age 10 after I graduated from college. It’s really awkward to have to explain certain things to her because I’ve always seen her as my baby sister but being her sister and not her parent, I think it’s easier for me to witness the changes. I’d rather her grow up to be a capable, mature adult rather than one who clings onto their childhood for comfort. My mother had a hard time letting me grow up and making choices on my own. She was no where as open in raising me as we are with my sister but my sister and I have a 13 year age gap. As for your daughter’s concern over hygiene and makeup, I think it’s a good thing. Asking about these things was not natural for my sister and I was very open to her about choices she’d have to make as a young adult and just basically, taking good care of herself. I remember as a young adult, my friends and I didn’t really consult our parents about the way our bodies were changing because it was embarrassing and almost taboo to talk about. I would appreciate your daughter’s maturity and effort to try and communicate with you.

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