If you could spend one day with your grandparents or one day with your grandchildren, who would you choose and why?

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I would choose my grandparents since I am only 16 and so I do not have any grandchildren. Also adding to that my grandparents live in a whole another continent and so do I. They are in Africa and I am in Europe and so that is VERY difficult and very expensive as well to get to see them. Hope this year we will have enough money for all three of us to go visit because I really miss them. Most of my life I have always lived with them and they are the ones to thank for the person that I am today. If it was not for them I am not quite sure what I would be doing at this very moment and for a living.

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