Are your siblings people you would choose to know socially if you weren’t related to them?

Are your siblings people you would choose to know socially if you weren’t related to them?
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I have 3 older brothers. My middle one died 3 years ago. He and my youngest brother would be people I would absolutely hang out with. Other than my youngest brother liking Trump (no one is perfect, plus he doesn’t vote, sooo), their wit is very much like mine and both very sweet and charming people. We still have no idea where my oldest brother came from. Switched at birth? Adopted? Not only does he not look like us, he is dark haired, dark eyes, we have light hair, he has no sense of humor, doesn’t like animals, has no hobbies or interests that the rest of us have. It’s a struggle to have a conversation with him. I love him, but prefer to just text as a way to communicate with him. Good thought provoking question!
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