My unvaccinated uncle just passed from Covid today. Do you have any advice for supporting my mother?

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I understand the concerns that your mother had in warning her relatives, but she had warned them and now its up to them to decide to vaccinate or bear the consequences. She has done her part and perhaps at your Uncles Funeral it will become personal enough to persuade them emotionally to consider it. All she can do is to state that she loves them regardless of their choices. Condolances to the family, take care.

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