I'm 45 and I can't decide what I want to be when I grow up . . .

I'm 45 and I can't decide what I want to be when I grow up . . .
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I am too. I am 40. You don’t have to have a trade or degree to be happy. You could get a list of every career and cross one off at a time. You are ahead of your peers who are $200,000 In student loan debt. You can learn lots on YouTube and online moocs.
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