answer:I worry about this for when my husband and I have children. Most of his family is redneck, ignorant, racist, homophobic idiots. I constantly hear terms like “faggot” and “nigger” being said around the other kids in the family and it makes me sad, and a bit angry. I will be raising my kids to know that being black (or Hispanic or Asian or whatever) is the same as being white – no better and no worse. They’ll know that being gay or transgendered is okay. They’ll know not to be bullies or even a bystander to bullying, or else there will be consequences. My husband agrees with me on all of this. Our conflicting views are one of the many reasons that only his mother will be permitted to babysit our kids. I have a feeling that I’m going to have to be a bitch at family functions (or avoid them altogether) whenever they cross the line. And, to be honest, one stupid drunk person would be enough of an incentive for me to remove my kids immediately. I think it’s obvious you won’t be getting through to these people by asking them to stop. Just do your best to make sure your kids know not to repeat these things and that these viewpoints and comments are wrong. Feel free to speak your mind when these situations arise so your kids can see you stand up for your point of view. Also feel free to remove them from the situation altogether.