What was it like to have a father growing up?

What was it like to have a father growing up?
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I’ll be interested to see how people interpret this Q. For me, it simply was, I knew nothing else, my Dad was always there. I am a Single mother by Choice, however, and my daughter has said basically the same thing, that our situation was normal for her, she never knew differently so she couldn’t comment on the lack.
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