Is this bad parenting in your opinion?

Is this bad parenting in your opinion?
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You’re the reasonable one. Like you mention “It’s not like I’m letting them ditch school… it’s gymnastics” – exactly ! Presumably this is for recreation, and some exercise, if you force them to do it when they are burned out that is not recreation. If they skip it too much maybe get them on some other exercise/sport activity. Tell those busy-body relations you’re not trying to crank out olympians.
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