If you had to choose - would you rather have a number of wonderful friends or a great romantic partner?

If you had to choose - would you rather have a number of wonderful friends or a great romantic partner?
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It would be great to have that one person that is your person (Greys Anatomy reference). But, what if that romance is short lived for whatever reason? Death, just drifted away from you, had to move, a multitude of reasons. I would rather have the many giving and sharing friends. There would be multiple insights, multiple personalities, different people to do different things with. One may love theater, one may love trips, one may love books. Not just one person can be all things.
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