answer:No I don’t think you are. Even if they were your grand-kids, and I know this is not the point, you would be ‘allowed’ to stipulate when you can or cannot baby sit. I think this is an interesting question all round for a lot of reasons. More mature people have active lives, and are ‘living’. If our adult children have kids, they need to also feature in things like baby sitters. For when relatives are not available. Regards the no reply to texts, I find that adult children never grow up with regards to their parents. Meaning it can often be one sided. Then when the parent is gone, they realize the mistakes they made. You can’t really change that, I feel.