How to find a goal in my life? How to figure out what I could enjoy doing?

How to find a goal in my life? How to figure out what I could enjoy doing?
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answer:In an effort to find things one enjoys, one must DO things. If you think you might enjoy art (even if you may not be particularly skilled), take an art class with other like-minded adults. If you think you might enjoy martial arts, or hiking, or any other activity find a way to DO the activity. In my own life, I love my work, but I didn’t always like what I did. I did volunteer work and that helped me find the career I have now that brings me great joy. On days when work is not as fun as I wish, I have my artwork and other outside of work activities that I enjoy very much. There is a saying: “Fake it, until you make it.” This basically means, do things with great enjoyment (even if it is pretend) until you find the thing that really brings you joy. It means doing things several times in order to explore it more further before discarding it as something that is not a good fit for you. Sometimes you have to change in small ways in order for a good fit to be possible. The key is practice and practicing with a full heart committed to the task at hand (even if that task is washing the dishes or some other mundane activity).
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