My approach to parenting was one of letting go gradually. Too often I see parents that are overprotective, and either the child rebels, or when they get some independence they are out of control. I have also seen the opposite, where the parents were too permissive. Those kids were the ones that stole from the grandparents and ‘friends’, and had no limits. My son envied them at first, but as the years went by, he recognized that it wasn’t good for the kids. My son had to show that he was ready to handle each stage of independence and responsibility. If I gave him some slack, and he messed up, I’d rein him back in. I think this has helped him become fairly mature compared to his peers. I also think it has helped me for the day that is fast approaching… when he leaves the nest (he’s a High School Senior now).