Would you be slightly offended by this situation?

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Is it random? You said you haven’t smoked weed in 8–10 years, does that mean you used to and it was a problem and your parents had a hard time dealing with it? Or, maybe someone else in the family is an addict and their antenna are always up? I am not assuming anything, but if any of those thngs I named are true, I would not be offended and I would not blame them for asking.

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