What do you think of raising children in a "gender neutral" way?

What do you think of raising children in a "gender neutral" way?
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I think it would cause more issues than not. I think that at birth a person is naturally hetero-sexual and should thus be treated as such, if they were raised in-specifically they would have to look to outside groups and influences for the answer.
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