I don't want to live with my long term boyfriend - but only because of his dog. How do I tactfully approach this situation?

I don't want to live with my long term boyfriend - but only because of his dog. How do I tactfully approach this situation?
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I don’t think you’re an asshole for that, as I agree. Also a cat person who loves animals in general and many dogs, I am not willing to put up with badly behaved dogs. I am not willing/able to behave like an alpha dog or whatever dog-master behavior is supposed to control hyper dogs. (My own inclination is more to act like an alpha lion and defend myself against a dog that attacks me or people/animals around me, though I get there is a difference between aggressive dogs and untrained “insensitive” dogs, and it almost never comes to that, it’s still annoying.) There is no way I would be willing to live around an obnoxious dog and have to deal with being assaulted at random times. I would just be honest about your boundaries. Not willing to be assaulted by an ill-behaved dog is a reasonable one. If your boyfriend can’t understand that, then he has a social problem. I would suggest that if he wants you to move in (and even if not, really), he should get the dog well-trained by a professional.
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