answer:The idea of the Ask-public is not to “fit in”, and certainly not to say what everyone else says. Share what you know, and your experience will be valued for what it is (depending on how well-spoken you are, of course). I’m not sure what you mean by fluffy… since I can’t imagine Europeans not falling in love or understanding each other… or caring what the next guy has to say. So I’ll interpret your question to mean “softening the blow or minimizing conflict with politically-correct language.” Americans are very experienced with politically correct speech. Our entitlement to free speech is a double-edged sword – we can say whatever we think but to be socially acceptable our words get processed through a filter before being spoken. Maybe this is the fluff you speak of? Say it straight if you want to. We’ll get used to it. Just make sure it’s productive.