If you have a dysfunctional family, how do you get through holiday gatherings?

If you have a dysfunctional family, how do you get through holiday gatherings?
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I feel like if you’re expecting something, it’s more likely to actually happen. If you expect the worst, then you’ll get the worst. And I’d just be positive and that kind of thing. Besides. Every family is dysfunctional, even if we can’t tell.
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