Have you ever regretted having children?

Have you ever regretted having children?
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Questioned my sanity? Yes. Regretted having our two daughters? Never. They’re my best friends. We get along great. We party together, shop together, discuss family & give each other support when we need it. My life would be so much more empty without them.
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