I'm still feeling hopeless, but my life is starting to look up... what should I do?

I'm still feeling hopeless, but my life is starting to look up... what should I do?
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answer:You really need to rejoin the world. Your friend would not want you isolating and being miserable. Have an imaginary conversation with him. Imagine him viewing your life since his death, and imagine what he would say to you. He would want you to live and to be happy.
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