"You can't love another until you love yourself." I think this cliche is bunk. What do you think?

"You can't love another until you love yourself." I think this cliche is bunk. What do you think?
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People who don’t love themselves have trouble with relationships and then go to Fluther.com to tell everyone about it. I think that saying has truth. You can’t be in a healthy relationship without good self esteem.
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