Qualities of a good/bad college roommate?

Qualities of a good/bad college roommate?
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answer:It really depends on the people involved. What I want in a roommate is: Someone who keeps their own area and the common areas neat. Someone who is thoughtful. For example, does not blast loud music while I am studying. Does not bring her boyfriend home to screw expecting me to leave the room. Someone who has a sense of humor and fun. Someone who is as serious about school as I am.
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