Is this considered a mental issue or a guilt issue...I don't know? (this is long but PLEASE read)

Is this considered a mental issue or a guilt issue...I don't know? (this is long but PLEASE read)
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Well, what a pickle! The first and most important thing that I want to say to you is that this is not at all your fault. This is your parents having trouble being helpful and generous and kind to each other, and putting you and your siblings in the middle, and believe me, this is not your fault. It’s so surprising to me to hear how over and over again grown-up people, who should know better, even if they are hurt, to protect their children, put their children at risk because of their own problems. And the confusing thing is, just as you are saying, that you think it is all your doing, you picked sides, you went to live with your dad. Believe me, this is not your fault. Some day, you will look at this situation, and be able to understand a bit more what is going on now. It would be great if your parents got some therapy, so that they could do what they can to protect you and your siblings from their relationship, which sounds awful. But, again, this is not your fault.
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