After a loved one has passed away, for how long did you say to yourself "did that really happen? I can't believe that they're gone"?

After a loved one has passed away, for how long did you say to yourself "did that really happen? I can't believe that they're gone"?
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My brother passed away in 2001 and I’d say it took well over 7 years. My father died in September of last year and I am not at the point yet where I can say ‘yes, he died’ and understand it.
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