Why do people offer help but not follow through?

Why do people offer help but not follow through?
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Alas, some friends are more dependable than others. To me it’s that simple. Or maybe they were just blowing smoke up your ass. Maybe the friend is incapable of providing what they offered. Maybe they felt like they made them self look good with these declarations , hoping you would never call their bluff…
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