Do you parent like your parents?

Do you parent like your parents?
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answer:My parents were very traditional and, although they loved us, they were undemonstrative in their affection and rarely if ever “told” us they loved us. I am traditional in my parenting also, but unlike my parents, I am very demonstrative in showing my love and affection to my small children, and I tell them I love them everyday.
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Description : To what extent should parents let their children create chaos?

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