Did you wonder if you would be a good parent?

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When I was a young kid, I was very grateful for the way my parents were, and especially for how they behaved towards me. I was wary of other parents from other families, and had pretty negative impressions of many of the ones I met when I saw or heard about how they related to their kids. That had me be pretty confident I’d be good with kids.

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