At what point are you comfortable stepping in and talking to a friend about how they parent their children?

At what point are you comfortable stepping in and talking to a friend about how they parent their children?
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Maybe just chat to her, in an ordinary way and ask her about what she thinks about gender roles? Then throw around some ideas. Also maybe talk to her about how important it is to be pretty and why? She is not physically harming them I feel. And we rarely agree how individuals raise their kids. That is what makes us all different. But as a good friend, it is good to be able to discuss various life issues, so you can feel comfortable approaching it that way I am sure.
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