What do you find the most difficult and most rewarding part of being a single parent?

What do you find the most difficult and most rewarding part of being a single parent?
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answer:I think the hardest part for me is not having someone else to help out at home, either getting the child ready in the morning (you do this while I do that) or in the evening. It would be great to say “I’m going to take a shower, you give her breakfast,” or “can you give her a bath while I load the dishwasher?” Another example would be one parent drops the child off at school in the morning while the other parent may pick up after school, so one parent is free to go straight to work in the morning, and maybe one parent can stop at the store after work while the other parent picks up the child and watches her, or takes her to dinner. I think the rewards are similar as other parents, just enjoying seeing her, playing with her, and loving her. Maybe one reward that dual parent families might not experience is not having to debate or argue about child rearing practices. I have friends that are couples, where one is lenient and one is strict, and it’s a source of friction. I don’t experience that, as it’s just me making decisions or disclipining.
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