Should I cancel plans to go to my sister's last minute bday dinner?

Should I cancel plans to go to my sister's last minute bday dinner?
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I suppose it is hard for me to really answer this, because if it were my sister, I would be able to tell her that I already had plans for the day, and arrange to do something together for her birthday at another time. My family does last minute planning often, and it would be perfectly normal to learn that someone can’t show because they already have plans. That should almost be a given with only a few hours notice.
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