My girlfriend doesn't appreciate me. What do I do?

My girlfriend doesn't appreciate me. What do I do?
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answer:You are fortunate to have found this out before you married her. I would think long and hard about this union. If you cannot measure up to her expectations being yourself then you will never be appreciated. She will always be looking at what others have done and comparing you to them. I have seen couples like this. The man is usually very quiet, tuning her out as she points out his deficiencies in public. They look like their spirit was long ago broken. There is no wrong way, barring tragedy, to propose. It seems she is far too focused on her own reality then the one right in front of her. If you are unwilling to leave such a person I must ask: are you worried that you cannot do better than her? Why should you be with someone who does not love you so much she will embrace every bit of you? She should be supporting you and nurturing your soul, not bringing out a measuring rod to judge you by.
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