A friend and life-long colleague is accused of child molestation and they quit work. How do you relate to them after that?

A friend and life-long colleague is accused of child molestation and they quit work. How do you relate to them after that?
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Well, an accusation is different than actual evidence or him admitting it, but I guess we’re assuming he most likely did it since there were multiple accusations. I would try to contact him, and let him know that I would genuinely want to talk with him without judgment.
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