What do you do when you have made a new friend who tellsyou that they have been hurt by people and they have trust issues and they make you feel as though you have to validate everything you say to them?

What do you do when you have made a new friend who tellsyou that they have been hurt by people and they have trust issues and they make you feel as though you have to validate everything you say to them?
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What about this friendship is valuable enough to give it more time?
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