If a friend or spouse betrays their mate or friend by stabbing them in the back, were they ever genuine from the start?

1 Answer

Answer :

They could have been but got selfish somewhere along the way. The problem lies in trust after a betrayal. Friends and loved ones often feel compromised and used, the line between what was genuine and what was a cover for the offense becomes blurred by disappointment, retrospect, and bitterness.

Related questions

Description : Say that you had to be around someone who treated your loved one (spouse/partner, family member, friend) poorly, how would you act around them? How would you deal with it?

Last Answer : If my loved one didn’t stand up for themselves, you better be damned sure I’d step in and put my foot down. I may be timid when it comes to a lot of things, but protecting my loved ones? No holds barred.

Description : Is there anything you restrict your spouse, mate, lover, etc. from wearing when you are not with them?

Last Answer : Nope

Description : Is your spouse your best friend?

Last Answer : My husband is, but not because he's supposed to be. I've known him since I was 20 (we're almost 40 now). We enjoy doing the same things, enjoy the same music and have the same interests when it ... is the person I go to with my problems, and the person I want to laugh with and spend time with.

Description : Candidates and spouse running mate?

Last Answer : Talent is where you find it, and God knows we certainly have no surplus of talent when it comes to our politicians. It makes perfect sense that an individual skilled in any profession might have a close relative gifted with similar skills.

Description : There are many incidents of Irony in the chapter. Choose the statement that DOES NOT support Irony in the end. (a) Those who go out of their way to help a poor farmer are suspected to be ... true betrays a lack of humility and gratitude. (d) The postmaster showed satisfaction for doing a good deed.

Last Answer : (d) The postmaster showed satisfaction for doing a good deed.

Description : Why is it hard to meet genuine people?

Last Answer : Story of my life. I don’t get it either but I know some genius around here will explain it well and I’ll have to give them massive lurve. Look! Here’s one now! Welcome to ask-public by the way!

Description : Shall I go out with my crush's best mate?

Last Answer : Recipe for disaster.

Description : Are you friends with anyone who has a spouse/partner that you don’t like?

Last Answer : My best friend and former business partners wife and I tolerate each other. I am not her type, very few are, we rarely interact socially and when we do we are civil but we would not go out of our way ... do my best to get away unobserved and I am pretty sure the same goes for if she saw me first.

Description : Will you go to dinners and parties without your spouse?

Last Answer : answer:Huh, what's the big deal indeed. I don't know. If I did have a spouse, I would go to places and do things on my own, as my spouse would very be allowed to do himself, too. You can't ... gets when it's time to change tires. Nobody says it, it's like some unspoken rule, but I sure notice it.

Description : If your spouse has Alzheimer's, what do you do with the rest of your life?

Last Answer : This is something my partner and I have discussed at length about but I still don’t think we can extrapolate…what we will do and feel if that happens…

Description : (Follow up question to the contacting the ex question.) How much do I need to consider the feelings of his spouse in this situation?

Last Answer : How would you feel if you were in her position?

Description : If you agree to go out with a friend, but then s/he never calls back with the details, how long do you have to give them before making other plans?

Last Answer : Can you text him back for details? After that you have done everything to hook up. I’d get back to packing.

Description : I have sciatic problems and now I am experiencing stabbing pains in the back of both thighs, has anyone had this?

Last Answer : answer:Hot and cold compresses are a good idea. Taking some kind of NSAID will also help to reduce the swelling and pain. I've only experienced sciatica in one leg, but it was pretty bad, ... prescribe muscle relaxers for muscle spasms - so consider asking about them if you can't tolerate the pain.

Description : Do you ever make a friend on fb (or in real life) who you respect and like tremendously...but then they come out of left field with some wacky statement or belief that completely changes your opinion of them?

Last Answer : It doesn’t sound wacky to me.

Description : Is it ok to start dating a friend of your ex boyfriends?

Last Answer : Yes, move on. Be with his friend, hopefully your ex would get jealous and felt the pain he gave you.

Description : Have you ever lost a friend and not known what happened to them?

Last Answer : Many. Most of them actually, since I keep moving. They probably wonder the same about me, since they stay where they are and I'm always the one passing through. The one friend I always wonder about ... of mine, who had been searching for me online (and eventually tracked me down). That was nice.

Description : Atheists: would you tell the spouse of a dying friend that there is no such thing as God or Heaven, when they take comfort in "knowing" where their spouse is "going"?

Last Answer : I'm not an aetheist, I'm an agnostic. There is absolutely no reason to suggest to a person in your friend's situation that there is no God or heaven, or whatever it is they believe that ... plenty of other venues and situations where a person can debate their beliefs about, or lack thereof, God.

Description : How To Get Back At My Ex-Best Friend?

Last Answer : Trying to get revenge is not a way to get closure; working on what happened and why with a counselor or therapist is. You have to figure out who and what you want to become.

Description : Would you be pissed at a friend who owes you a significant amount of money but is always spending money on things other than paying you back?

Last Answer : answer:I would learn my lesson. Never loan money to someone that doesn't put my friendship above things/stuff. Then, I would tell said friend that I expect a weekly payment of X dollars beginning ... way I'd have a record with a signature for small claims court should I need it in the future.

Description : How do I get my best friend back?

Last Answer : It sounds like she told you exactly how she feels. Perhaps she did not see the humor in your ‘jokes’. Apply the Butterfly rule: If you love something, set it free . . .

Description : I want to get my friend back for pranks he has pulled on me, without anyone getting hurt, or property damaged. Anyone got any good ideas?

Last Answer : Rickroll him!!!

Description : A friend and life-long colleague is accused of child molestation and they quit work. How do you relate to them after that?

Last Answer : Well, an accusation is different than actual evidence or him admitting it, but I guess we’re assuming he most likely did it since there were multiple accusations. I would try to contact him, and let him know that I would genuinely want to talk with him without judgment.

Description : What do you do when you have made a new friend who tellsyou that they have been hurt by people and they have trust issues and they make you feel as though you have to validate everything you say to them?

Last Answer : What about this friendship is valuable enough to give it more time?

Description : If a person were congratulated begrudgingly or out of sympathy, is that a genuine pat on the back or something else?

Last Answer : Pleasantries are the grease that keep the social cogs turning.

Description : If a friend of yours loses their mother, do you address the condolence card to only your friend, or to your friend and their spouse?

Last Answer : answer:No customs for grieving folks. Follow your own heart. Personally, I would deal directly with the mourner. It's his mother, after all. In the early stages of grief, however, nuances don't ... some affection or comfort does. (And don't obsess over your choice words. That is unimportant also.)

Description : How could you accommodate with your age-old parents, inspite of the fact that they always complain for their difficulties for no apparent reasons Options: A) You will feel sorry but not ... the genuine problems due to senility D) Do favourable efforts to find out remedies for their troubles

Last Answer : C) You will focus your attention on the genuine problems due to senility 

Description : As a child, were you ever told a lie by a sibling or friend to terrify you?

Last Answer : answer:I was the older sibling who told the lies. My favorite tool was the Ouija Board, and realizing Parker Brothers had the market share on the underworld, I found it too irresistible to use it on ... was stalking them I mentally abused every younger child in my family. I'm very proud of that.

Description : If you found out a friend was casually racist, would you talk to them about it, or simply not talk to them again?

Last Answer : I would talk to them about it, yes. Not being verbose or confrontational or anything, just a little “That was a bit racist right now, don’t you think?”

Description : I am friends with someone who is nice to me but my friend group doesn't like them?

Last Answer : It’s difficult to give you thoughts, because we don’t know the details about why the group ostracized Z. We don’t know if they acted unfairly. You have a very delicate balancing act to attempt. I wish you luck.

Description : Do you have a friend or family who repeats the same stories over and over again in conversations and you stopped reminding them because you know it will never stop anyway?

Last Answer : Yes.

Description : When a close friend or family member falls into serious peril do you rally around them or distance yourself from them?

Last Answer : answer:Normally we stand by them to a degree. One of our friends got into some drugs issues and then ended up participating in an armed robbery of a convenience store with another man. He also stole a bunch ... back around since then, we feel like he's probably going back to a life of crime. Sad.

Description : A distant friend on Facebook recommends someone you don't know. Do you add them as a friend?

Last Answer : I don’t add them.

Description : How to break it to a friend that you like them?

Last Answer : Really what have you go to loose in doing so! If they say their not interested you’ll save thinking you may have something you’d don’t actually have. Friendships are how things start and some are meant to go beyond that and some not. That’s life. Go for it.

Description : If you get really upset with a close friend of yours in a dream, can you be mad at them when you wake up?

Last Answer : answer:Dreams have a funny way of altering emotions. I’ve had dreams that were so intense that they altered my perception of a person involved for a while after waking. It’s irrational to consciously propagate that kind of anger, though.

Description : If your friend was feeling down, what would you say to cheer them up?

Last Answer : Often, the best response is to hold them and to listen.

Description : What would your opinion be of a friend who had a killer virus but refused to take proven precautions to prevent them from spreading the disease?

Last Answer : I don't know. Someone I know just found out their boyfriend gave them the herp. Then I found out she's still with him. He claims he didn't know. I'm basically gob-smacked that she's still with him ... that I would turn them into the police. But unless I was in the actual situation, it's hard to say.

Description : How soon after you meet someone can you add them as a friend on Facebook?

Last Answer : if you add them right away, you seem like a facebook addict. i know many people who do that i.e. add me after they meet me for 2 seconds in some random party. it’s not a big deal.

Description : Why would my laptop suddenly start telling me that my copy of Windows Vista is not genuine?

Last Answer : Did you ever activate it?

Description : Ever thought you knew a friend so well, but they weren't what they seemed?

Last Answer : Behavior is often very situational. For instance. when I’m with my chess buddies, I’m quite different than from when I’m with my hunting buddies or my co-workers. Back-stabbing is not acceptable, though.

Description : Have you ever pulled pranks on a friend when they stayed over night?

Last Answer : I never did it but that did it to me…. don’t ask what that did plezzzz don’t ask

Description : What makes a good friend? Ever been a better friend to someone than they have been to you?

Last Answer : answer:I've always been a really good friend. Every once in a while, I do get taken advantage of, and when it happens, boy does it happen big time. However, I have been told that I bring out ... (mine is named Stella, sorry to anyone named Stella) can shape people up quite nicely, I've noticed.

Description : When did human males and females start to be discriminating with choice of mate?

Last Answer : Women.

Description : If you give a friend $$ to fix their car, but they use it for something else, would you sue?

Last Answer : For 300? No. A lawyer takes that kind of money by the hour. Plus court costs and whatnot. And at the end, the guy will not be able to pay, anyway, seeing that he had to beg for “car maintenance money”.

Description : Ladies if your boyfriend or spouse hit you or cheat on you, will you take them back?

Last Answer : answer:My husband used to abuse me, but never physically. He sure did a good job of intimidation and destroying people (especially me) with his words. That went on until I finally figured out that I-not he ... it turns out, but I am very thankful it did. We will have been married 35 years this June.

Description : Hello, I experience a pin-point stabbing, hot pain in the upper side of my lower right leg. .

Last Answer : You need to see a doctor. Nobody can diagnose it over the internet. It could be a muscle problem, it could be broken, who knows.

Description : What is the cause of stabbing pain in the inner thigh?

Last Answer : See a Doctor or Emergency Room; it could a serious condition like Deep vein thrombosis or blood clot. If you have cold areas or numbness you have a chance of a blood clot.

Description : Random Stabbing Pain Above Left Knee?

Last Answer : Could be anything from some sort of minor nerve pain/ strain to be a life threatening DVT obviously, you need to ask your doctor. None of us here are qualified to answer and guessing is not appropriate. See a doc.

Description : I have been experiencing sharp stabbing pain in my left upper inner thigh. It started out as kind of random but now I can hardly walk. I thought maybe a hernia, but can't find any bulges, and I have no pain ... 53, healthy, I think, and active. I'm home, in pain, wondering, should I go to the ER?

Last Answer : I’d go to the hospital, there’s no harm to check out a bit of professional advice

Description : What is this stabbing pain I sometimes get, out of the blue, in my right temple?

Last Answer : My guess is that you have a migraine. You really need to see a doctor.

Description : Does the stabbing in the Pennsylvania school demonstrate that the type of weapon does matter?

Last Answer : Yes it does. As did the mass stabbing in China recently.