What do you do when someone you love continues to threaten suicide and won't get the help they need?

What do you do when someone you love continues to threaten suicide and won't get the help they need?
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answer:This is a tough one. Can all four of you get together (maybe in a locked room) and agree to have an intervention with your mom? If all of you are on the same page, maybe that will give you more power. What do you mean by “weaseling out”? Has she given you reasons for her unhappiness and depression? Do you feel she is manipulative, irrational or mentally ill? This isn’t very helpful. Sorry.
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