My stepmom thinks I'm coming between her and my dad?

My stepmom thinks I'm coming between her and my dad?
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answer:There is really nothing you can do to fix anything. All you can do is be sure your behavior is good so the step mom cannot make any twisted claims about your intentions. As far as the estate issues, well, your father NEEDS to put his wishes and assets in writing. He is foolish to think that he can trust this woman to do the right thing. The only thing you can do is have a heart to heart with your dad and express how important it is to you that what he wishes for you and his other children be set forth in a will to avoid any misery and misunderstandings later. You also have to accept the very real possibility your dad will continue to do nothing and that you may, very well, end up with nothing from his estate. As much as this situation sucks you can’t force your father to do anything. He sounds like a passive guy who is more than happy to let his aggressive wife call the shots. Sorry to say but unless he chooses to make a will it is quite doubtful you will see your fair share of the estate holdings.
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