answer:Can you call your aunt’s primary care physicians and get resources for social workers, paid caregivers other than you and other available services? You aunt may need an evaluation to see whether she is showing signs of dementia or Alzheimer’s…not an easy thing to do if she is resistant. Again, her doctor is your first resource. Your responses are loving and reasonable. I asked her to find a support group for elderly caretakers and a therapist. And that if she wants to rant, but doesn’t want solutions, she has to tell someone else. From now on I only want to hear about a problem if she actually wants to fix it. Perfecy. Stick to your guns. When my mother started to go downhill, we hired an experienced lay person for several hours every other morning to do what you have been doing for your aunt.