answer:The most common reason for therapy not being helpful is a lack of rapport with the therapist or his/her chosen methodology There are many different types of therapists out there and I would strongly urge you to try again. When I realized I needed to find a therapist, it took awhile. The first guy’s office I was in, it didn’t take much longer than 15 mins. or so for me to realize the incompatibility. So, I thanked him politely, paid my bill and left; and I kept on looking. Not everyone is a good match for everyone else. That’s just part of being human. During that period of my life I was fortunate enough to find two who were enormously helpful for me. (The first one retired and moved after about two years, thus necessitating a search for the second.). One was male, the other female and their methodology was polar opposite. But they were what I needed at the time. The other possibility for why some people don’t find therapy helpful is that they’re just not ready to do the work or had unrealistic expectations. It’s not like a therapist has a magic wand to wave and bingo, you’re cured. But if you’re considering suicide as rational, perhaps you’re desperate enough to make a go of it this time around. Some therapists even offer an initial shorter get-acquainted type of meeting (sometimes free) to determine if there is the compatibility to continue. Give it another try and dont give up until ypu find the right person for you (even if it takes consults with numerous potentisl therapists) and write down a list of questions. Therapy is a collaborative process so you have every right to interview them as you would anyone else from whom you’re considering purchasing a service. If you’re this lonely and miserable, what have you got to lose? There are no magic answers here. Most people who are experiencing what you’re describing realize at some point that they need a trained professional to help them sort things out so that they can live life comfortable in their own skin. It is definitely possible to be alone but NOT lonely (desperate) untill the right person comes along. You need to find your authentic self and live with it. You need to be comfortable with yourself. Finding the right therapist who asks the right questions can be enormously helpful in figuring out how to do that.