How to Make Friends
Having friends is a valuable part of life. Not only do we have the benefit of companionship, fun, and conversations, but having friends help open our minds and see perspectives other than our own. It is a deeply enriching experience. Here are some ways you can make friends.
Socialize
Socializing is the first step to getting to know new people. Don’t force yourself into making friends or being liked. Acquaintances and simply networking is good too. Join groups, clubs, sports teams and organizations. Volunteer in charitable groups. While having the same interests are not a requirement in making friends, it helps to have a common ground when meeting people.
The Internet is also a great way to meet new people, but be careful with the information you give out. In any case, it’s always nicer to meet and interact with people in real life.
Talk
friendsAttending social events and joining groups isn’t going to be very helpful if you don’t say anything to anyone. Don’t be afraid to do small talk. Don’t know what to say? Keep to so-called “safe topics” like your neighborhood, people you may know in common, your job, where you studied and your hobbies. You’ll be surprised how easily these topics can branch out to other things that you may find interesting. Listen as much as you talk. Be genuinely interested in what another person has to say. Even if you don’t hit it off (it happens), at least you’ve had that experience that will help you relate to other people better in the future.
Spend Time Together
Real friends get out of their way to spend time with each other. Invite them out for coffee, arrange a small intimate dinner, go see a movie or organize an outing. If spending time with your friends sounds a lot like dating, it’s because it is. Any relationship can be defined by the time you are willing to spend with the other person, so do your part.
Be a Friend
What does it take to be a good friend? Be a good listener. Learn how to listen to people without imposing judgment on them. Be there when they need you, and be a trustworthy friend. Keep their secrets and keep your promises. Keeping and maintaining trust between two people is very important.
Choose Friends Wisely
When a friend is too controlling or needy, sometimes it’s better to cut your losses and break the friendship. Exit from a friendship in the most graceful way possible, and take to heart that any good relationship is always a give-and-take one. Through the years, you’ll lose some friends and gain others, so don’t take it too much at heart. It’s just a natural part of life.