Have you ever felt out of step with the world and what did you do to get yourself out of it?

Have you ever felt out of step with the world and what did you do to get yourself out of it?
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i am sorry to hear about your mother. I hope she gets better and soon. Do you keep a diary? I feel like you would be one of those people who do. It always helps me to write down (and unload) my feelings/thoughts when I am too stressed. that way, i can look back and analyze it as objectively as possible. At times like this, it is important to try to maintain a very positive outlook and spend as much time as you can with family, and just be there for your mother in whatever way possible. Also, reading something lighthearted might help you go into a “safe” place for a bit and refresh your mind that way. Also, make use of your friends and support system by talking to them because it always helps just knowing that you have people rooting for you. In serious times like these, you can either be the constantly worried, pessimistic person or you can be the one who tries to make others laugh, be happy regardless of the situation because you realize that life is short so you might as well live it by laughing and making others laugh. i strive to be like the second person, even though its hard at times. Don’t forget, the Ask-publicers are here for you. Good luck and keep us posted :)
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