How do you, if at all, avoid others placing their gender norms on your children?

How do you, if at all, avoid others placing their gender norms on your children?
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I would support my future-children in whatever they choose to do, but I hope that my sons are very masculine and my daughters are very feminine…. you know, the football player son and the cheerleader daughter. I hope my daughter doesn’t want to play sports and my son isn’t artsy. But like I said, it’s their choice.
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